Months have passed since Juliet Moreau returned to civilization after escaping her father's island-and the secrets she left behind. As people close to J To defeat the darkness, she must first embrace it. MoreauвЂ™s horrific legacy-though someone, or something, hasnвЂ™t forgotten her. Now, back in London once more, she is rebuilding the life she once knew and trying to forget Dr. It is freeing.To defeat the darkness, she must first embrace it. But at the end of the day, when you think about it, you may come to pity someone who is in constant need of compliments, attention, and validation. Arrogance doesnвЂ™t really inspire sympathy or compassion. You are no longer a child, and you are not as vulnerable to his rejection or anger.

Sometimes, you may need to adopt an authoritative stance and firmly impress upon him that his demeaning attitude is unacceptable. Narcissists get away with their behavior because others (passively) allow them to. Alternatively, you can assert your own authority and challenge his.You are an adult now, and you are not under his roof anymore. Sometimes, itвЂ™s easier, and requires less effort, to comply with most of his wishes. It may sound cheap, but if your father is narcissistic, you may not be interested in cutting him out of your life. Sometimes compliance is the simplest way to deal with a narcissistic parent.Narcissists lack empathy and the ability to validate others, so be careful about trusting them with sensitive information or sharing important achievements, because they wonвЂ™t treat it with the respect it deserves.

Never let a narcissist determine your self-worth.

This may work with your father and with others too. When you want such a person to do something for you, you need to spin it in a way so that your request seems to be to their benefit. I am not a big fan of dishonesty, but some people with narcissistic traits can be manipulated.

When you want something from a narcissist, convince them that it will be to their benefit.

As an adult, you can keep these conflicts with your father at a distance but if you date or marry a narcissist, it probably will wear you out. Narcissists are selfish and canвЂ™t put your needs on par with their own. DonвЂ™t expect a relationship with a narcissistic person to be based on mutuality or reciprocity.

Keep your expectations realistic and low.

It goes along with their self-righteousness. Some narcissistic parents have violent or abusive tendencies.

Cut ties if it is too toxic or dangerous.

If he has a rage attack, you may decide to get in the car and leave. Take the best, as long as he doesnвЂ™t still have the power to hurt you. If you put him into place in your mind, he may simply end up being a lovable but annoying father. His arrogance and constant need for ego-stroking can be annoying. He's your father after all, and you will need to differentiate from him in order to enjoy his presence without being undermined. You want to come to terms with Dad for who he is, and how he hurt you. So how do you survive a narcissistic father? Just like girls need to be adored by their fathers to feel validated, boys also need their dad to believe in them.

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